Sacred Relationships:

7 Steps to Energetically Align

with Those We Love

Every relationship we have is sacred.  Not only our close family members and friends, but every single relationship we have is sacred.

How can this be, you ask?

We are all made of energy.  This energy is vibrating all the time.  Energetically our soul vibrates at a certain level, we only attract those people and situations that match with our own energetic vibration.  Every individual in our life is a reflection of some part of our energetic makeup.

However, as humans with egos, we are quick to judge one another.  The key to discovering the divine within each relationship you have is to slow down and look at the other person with an open heart and mind.  With each relationship in your life, ask yourself:  What part of myself is this person reflecting back onto me?  Know that we need every person in our life to show us the way to our own enlightenment - we are all energetically connected on levels far beyond the physical, mental, emotional.  There are so many different types of relationships we have with people.  Each of us has our own unique energetic imprint that has been formed throughout the time space continuum that our soul travels through.  This energetic imprint is shaped by our past relationships, karmic debt, our current environment, daily personal and spiritual practices and motivation for change.  A strong motivation for change has the greatest impact on your energy field.  Even with many obstacles in the past and present, by following the simple principles outlined below, you can begin to shift into alignment with what your soul needs in a relationship:

1. Embrace what is already good.

When do you feel good around other people?  If you find yourself feeling nurtured at times by the energy of others, this is a signal that you are energetically connected to the soul of this person.  Allow yourself to soak up the people that make you happy, and ask yourself why?  Pinpoint the qualities you love in people and focus on bringing more of the same into you life.  Ask to only see the good in every person in your life.  Focus on that good whenever you are with them.  You are not only attracting more of that good into your life, you are also energetically supporting that person in their own journey. 

2. Dive deeply and fearlessly into the challenges

Know that those relationships that you have the hardest time with are signposts for things that need to change in your life.  Know that every frustrating, uncomfortable, or angry feeling that you have is a signal that change needs to occur.  Other people are in your life to help you see the changes you need to make.  This is how the energy of the universe operates.  Love is the highest vibration, and everything is always vibrating towards love.  So we are all always moving towards good.  There is no such thing as the ‘devil', the ‘bad guy' these are just reflections that we are seeing of our own wounds that need to be healed.  The world and everything in it is our place of healing.  Every challenge we face is connected to the deepest part of our own healing work that needs to be done.  Look at all the people you have the hardest time dealing with, and ask yourself the question: What part of this person is a reflection of me ? 

3. Heal the past and the present

All relationships need to be healed from for total energetic alignment.  Energetically, when our bodies are tight or when we feel tense - this is a part of us that has a wound so deep that it reaches back to childhood.  The wound can be so deep that it is from a past life.  Pay attention to any tension that exists within your body and within your relationships.  Embrace them as gifts for your own healing.  All tension has roots in a place deeper then our current awareness.  When you feel tension arise in your life ask yourself, ‘Where is this tension coming from?'  Often these wounds are so deep that we have no conscious memory of where the pain originated from. 

Simple Energy Healing

A simple healing practice to release tension and begin to heal from the wound that caused it.

1. Pay attention to your body throughout the entire day.  Notice when any tension arises.  When it comes up, slow your thoughts down, take deep breaths and breathe through it.  Breathe until it disappears.  This practice allows you to physically release tension from your body.  Your body will become more sensitive to tension with repeated practice.
2. Spend a few minutes daily meditating on any tension in your body or relationships.  Silence your mind and concentrate on your breathing, allowing any tension to fall away.  Conclude your meditation by visualizing the spark of beauty, the spark of love, the spark of joy within each of your current relationships.

4. Purify Your Motives

Purify your motives in every relationship you are in, so that you are always seeking the good in the other person.  We are all here to reflect the positive qualities of those we come in contact with.  So seek out that which you love in each of your relationships and work towards embodying that quality in yourself.  Every time you find yourself feeling hostility for something someone isn't doing, or for something someone did, breathe out this feeling using the simple healing practice above and send the other person healing energy.  Know that every individual on this planet is seeking healing in some way shape or form.  Even if it does not look that way from the outside.  Draw on your own spiritual strength to see only the positive in those around you, and watch as that same positive energy comes flowing back into your life.

5. Listen and Speak with Love and Deliberate Intent

Know that there is a time to be silent within your relationships, there is a time to sit and meditate on matters, and there is a time to speak your truth as lovingly as possible.  Disengage from your emotions when you are speaking.  Allow yourself to feel your emotions first when you are in a quiet place.  Using the simple healing practice above breathe these emotions out and listen to what lies underneath.  Listening and speaking from that place brings a wisdom that is unparalleled.  This is because emotions are not here in our lives to act upon.  They are here as signposts for balance in our lives.  Positive emotions tell us everything is one the right path.  Our energy is high and is reflected by the way we feel.  When we feel any type of negative emotion, the spiritual solution is to sit with it.  To feel it and to let it run it's course.  Allow yourself to continue sitting with the emotion in meditation. 

This practice will allow you to enter into communication with others with a calm mind and open heart.  The next step is to speak from love.  Try to focus all of your energy on focusing on the other person's highest good.  Make it fun for yourself.  Try your best to figure out the best qualities in everyone you meet.  Then speak with deliberate intent to that ‘highest' part of the person.  When you are focused on the best qualities of another person, you open up the love within yourself, so your words will flow with more ease.     Speaking with love is a way to heal yourself by opening up your heart, practice with the relationships you currently have first.

6. Give Joyously

We are all connected to an infinite stream of energy emanating from a source of divine love.  This energy continually feeds us.  It is a human misconception that energy is finite.  We will always be taken care of, as long as we are taking care of others in our lives.  Find a way to give to others that brings you great joy.  Challenge yourself to only giving in ways that bring you great joy.  When we give while feeling resentful, we are canceling out our own positive karma.  We are giving, which is bringing us closer to this stream of divine light, but at the same time we are allowing negative emotion, which is weakening our connection to the light.  Because the light is perfect divine love, we need to align ALL of our activities with this love in order to move into perfect alignment with this stream of giving and receiving.  So, release the worry that you might be giving too much in your relationships.  This worry only comes from the illusion that you will not get energetically get back what you are putting into someone or something.  Know that your efforts are never wasted in this divine world we live within.  As long as you continue reaching toward that divine love, you will continue to feel better and better in your life.

Practically, do as much good as you can.  Give when it fills you up.  Stop giving to those people and in those situations that do not make you feel good.  Most importantly, give to yourself.  You must first make sure that you are filled up before you begin to gve to anyone else.  Nurture yourself in whatever way brings you joy.  Every morning, when you wake up, ask yourself, "What do I need to do today to make myself happy?", then commit to working towards bringing those things into your life.  The things that make you happy are indications of where you are when you are energetically aligned.  Happiness is a signal of energetic alignment.  So pay careful attention to those things that bring you happiness, and walk closer towards those things in your life.  Combine this practice with rest and periods of silence to stay connected to spirit within. 

7. Mindful Meditation

Energetically, the single most powerful force in our lives are our thoughts.  Are thoughts are the origin of all that we are and all that we do.  Our thoughts attract our current situations and relationships.  We have millions of thoughts every day.  Although much beauty can come from thoughts, an uncontrolled mind can become muddy and clear thinking can become difficult.  This often happens with the frequent miscommunications between men and women.  Mindful meditation is a practice that begins to tame our minds, so that the thoughts that come through are more clear.

‘Mindful Moments' Practice

Choose activities that you do every day.  Walking to your car, taking a shower, doing the dishes, walking the dog, waiting for your children, and instead of allowing your mind to go through hundreds of thoughts, slow down and only focus on the simple task you are currently doing.  Feel your body in the activity and allow all thoughts to float away.

Practice these ‘mindful moments' as often as possible throughout your day.  Watch as your mind slowly becomes more focused.  Your concentration and clarity are also destined in increase.

Moving forward......

As we tune in more to spirit, we slowly begin to realize that each of us is here for our own healing journey, every single one of us. 

We are all ultimately reaching towards the same divine love, and we all get side tracked every once and a while, some even more so than others. 

We also underestimate our own power to make tremendous change in our lives.  You can live in energetic alignment in your life and with your relationships.  Each individual we meet has a piece of the divine within them, and we have been energetically led to them for our own healing.  Begin to recognize this spark of divine within each person you meet, and your relationships will transcend to levels beyond your current awareness. 

Every single person you interact with holds a spark of divine love that they are trying to show you.  If you look at all relationships through this spiritual lens, you can begin to see the sacred and healing nature of each.  Once you can seek out the spark of beauty, love or joy in another person, you can then see clearly the gifts this person has brought you.

As we move into lives that require community, building and sustaining relationships are the next level of enlightenment.  We are moving from a place of inner knowing to a place of integrating that inner knowing into every part of our day, including every relationship we have.  As we all shift in how we relate in our relationships in our own lives, we effect the energetic grid on a large scale.  Join me in creating the shifts that are changing transforming our earth into a sacred land of plenty.  See the abundant love in each of your relationships and live from that place.  It is my call to you, rise up energetically, and see the blessings and beauty that are bestowed upon us all.  Love one another as we are learning to love ourselves and the path will begin to become clearer.  Listen to your energy every day and you will begin to change not only your life, but you will be simultaneously contributing to the energetic shifting taking place all over the planet.

In Peace, Love and Light.